Leaving this world the way you lived in it

September 18, 2008 by Tim
Filed under: Family 

A few months ago I wrote about what my wishes were in the event of my untimely death. My wife made me write it because she knew members of my family might have trouble with some of it, and she was right – they weighed in.

I will say my brother Mike had an awesome alternative, except he left out dolphin fishing off Key Largo and a poker game. But remembering the strip club (now closed, unfortunately) is certainly a masterstroke, and he has my permission to find an appropriate substitute. Lord knows, we supported many a single mom in our day. But his trip still needs to finish at the gulf with my wife and kids.

Last week, a friend of the family on my wife’s side passed away. A neighbor, a gentle man, unassuming, always willing to lend a hand. He would help my father-in-law when he had particularly difficult or heavy chores to handle. He was so vigorous I had no idea he was in his 80’s until my mother-in law told me. His yard was full of old boats in various states of repair, and he loved fishing.

He told his wife he didn’t want a memorial service, and he wanted to be cremated. His family went ahead with the memorial service because sometimes families need that sort of thing. But they did a wonderful thing.

Roy attended. In his tacklebox. :-)

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5 Comments on Leaving this world the way you lived in it

  1. Colleen on Thu, 18th Sep 2008 8:41 pm

    2. Sounds like something I read in the St. Pete Times this week. An avid golfer died on the course, so they scattered his ashes there!

  2. Stacey on Fri, 19th Sep 2008 9:23 am

    3. fyi, not some beat up old one – although maybe that would have been more authentic.

  3. Pigeon Forge TN Real Estate on Sun, 26th Oct 2008 10:52 pm

    4. My grandmother passed away recently and she requested that we not have an actual service, but that “if we wanted to” we could have a graveside service. So we kept it to only a graveside service but it was really nice and it served it’s purpose.

  4. soga168 on Mon, 30th Nov 2009 12:27 am

    5. My grandfather ever said he wanted to stay in the room forever after he died,but if so,how the neighbor bear such thing? later we did not do as his willing…

  5. Billy Liu on Mon, 30th Nov 2009 12:29 am

    6. Each family have different troubles and stories…

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